The words that many children dread…”It’s almost back-to-school time!”. When my daughter was young, in our household it meant a time of organization, planning for supplies, clothing, juggling home, church, school, extracurricular activities. One day, when my daughter was about six, I witnessed her chin drop on to her chest. In the middle of the day, this was not typical for her. She quietly explained, “Mom, I’m just really tired. I think I want to take a nap.” Well, pic
When my daughter went off to college, I thought I was going to cry my head right off my shoulders. It was ridiculous. My baby! The night before we took her to the college campus on a sweltering August Saturday, I watched her packing in her bedroom. “This is the last night my baby girl will live at home…..she’ll be home most weekends, but it’ll never be the same again…” I commiserated. And it wasn’t. And I grieved. And I discovered something. I eventually got over it.
Anyone who’s a parent will agree that raising children is some of the hardest work you’ll ever do.You are never quite sure if you got it completely right, and you can retroactively pinpoint mistakes even years later.I was a divorced, single mom for 5 years from when my daughter was in a carseat until she entered first grade, budgeting grocery shopping and often working two jobs. To this day, I can tell you about mistakes in parenting I made (and so can she).What I’ve observed
Awarding your child a trophy just for showing up? Jumping in to rescue little Janie when she calls her teacher names? Excusing yourself when you take off work for the third time this month to drive little Bobby’s forgotten lunchbox to school? You may be harming your children well into adulthood. For the past several decades, society embraced the idea of children’s self-esteem and ran with it. What began originally as a well-intended effort to build into our children’s s
We adore our children. They mean everything to us. We try hard to juggle marriage, family, parenting, work, outside responsibilities. Sometimes when we’re busy and multitasking as fast as we can, our children’s needs and wants take precedence, even over our spouse. After all; our spouse is an adult and can take of themselves, right? It can even be easier to draw closer to our child than our spouse, when our child gives usually unconditional acceptance and adoration and so
There is little that will produce anxiety like a parent anticipating their teen entering the dating world. Our culture is frought with rapidly-changing trends, an epidemic of increasingly harmful pornography, sexting, and ambiguous rules and boundaries for teens and adults alike. Parents are understandably confused and apprehensive and often feel isolated without much support in their parenting of teens and pre-teens. They can often feel that if they institute healthy boun